Bipolar Blog | Bipolar & Suicide
Bipolar Disorder & Suicide Trigger Warning Hello, dear reader. I want to begin this post about bipolar and suicide with a fair trigger warning. If this topic is too sensitive for you right now, DO NOT PROCEED. If you are facing a losing battle against suicidal ideation, then call a loved one immediately or call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Hotline. For more, check out my book The Five Pillars of Bipolar Recovery, book and masterclass. You can also check out my free resources. So, what does the photo above have to do with bipolar and suicide? This photo captures an important moment in my recovery. In the fall of 2020, my dear cousin took me to the Great Smokey Mountain National Park. I had been dealing with intense symptoms including depression, insomnia, constipation, and migraines for 10 months straight. I was dealing also with a lot of suicidal ideation at the time. We went white water rafting and were approaching rapids that were potentially deadly if we fell. As I stared at the approaching rapids, I thought to myself, “Okay, Imran. Here’s your chance to end it…” I paused and said softly to myself, “No, I don’t want to die. I just really want to get out of this misery.” That moment told me that I still found life to be precious. There were so many things I still wanted to do and so many people that showed me love and support, both personal and professional. I share this moment to inspire you to keep working toward recovery: It gets better, much better. Suicide is a sensitive topic and deeply disturbing if you are having suicidal ideation. It’s important, however, to know the right steps to overcome such dark thoughts. From “I want to kill myself” to “My body is experiencing temporary suicidal ideation” Word choice is crucial for dealing with thoughts of suicide. When I was facing these thoughts, I found myself thinking, “I don’t want to live anymore”, “I just want to die”, “I need to end this” Then, I learned the phrase “suicidal ideation”. The phrase was key for separating the ugly thoughts from my sense of self. When I would say things like, “I don’t want to live anymore,” I was implying that I had nothing to live for and that was a core feature of my identity. But, when I started saying, “My body is experiencing temporary suicidal ideation,” I was saying that I was having feelings that would — albeit very disturbing — ultimately pass. How to help yourself or someone you love facing suicidal ideation — Safety Agreements! In my integrative mental health coaching training at the Nickerson Institute, I got some specialized training related to suicide prevention. Here are some important questions to ask when determining the severity of someone’s suicidal ideation. They are also really useful to help calm down and control the situation. If you or your loved one is struggling to see that their suicidal ideation is temporary, then consider writing a safety contract. The two most important things to note down in your letter are (1) the reasons to live for such as family, friends, pets, future achievements and (2) what to do when dealing with suicidal ideation like calling a loved one, going to the gym, calling the suicide hotline. It may seem corny, but safety contracts are proven to work. I know I can speak from experience. Is suicidal ideation something you’ve struggled with? Please reach out or share your coping techniques in the comments below. I’d to learn from you. -Imran